The best place to start is at the
beginning, so I’m told.
January went something like this:
New Year’s: There are two festivals in my town each year.
One is during Halloween and the other is during New Year’s. The New Year’s
festival is called the celebration of the “Santisima Cruz Colorado,” and it
lasts about two weeks. In a lot of ways, it looks exactly like the festival
that we had in October, but it was bigger. There were more fair-type games and
food. A very popular Peruvian band played in La Cria, “Grupo Cinco.” My brother and
sister went, but I didn’t want to pay the S/.20 entry fee. I kind of regret
that now. They have pretty good music.
What I most enjoyed about New Year’s was learning the
Peruvian customs. First, at midnight, there is a party downtown in the plaza.
(Every town has a plaza, Spanish tradition.) There is music and dancing and
drinking, but the most interesting part was when they lit a giant wooden tower
with firecrackers and whirly-twirly fireworks. When the flame reached the top
of the tower, it spelled our “¡Feliz Año Nuevo!” Happy New Year. Then, they had
two dummies, clothes stuffed with straw, that they set on fire. Someone told me
that this is supposed to burn away any bad stuff that is going to happen in the
new year. And finally, a young man put on a cow costume (basically just some
white card board crudely shaped like a cow that fit snugly over the boy’s back
when he was hunched over at the waist), which was promptly set on fire before
he began his run through the crowds. This was absolutely the safest part of the
evening. (Sarcasm.) This is supposed to spread good luck. I held my breath,
waiting to see who was going to be the first person set aflame, but there were
no casualties, and, honestly, it was really fun. Other customs that I took part
in was eating twelve grapes – one good luck charm for each month of the year.
Also, my sister gave me yellow underwear. Wearing yellow underclothes on New
Year’s Eve is good luck, but when someone gives
you yellow underwear, it’s double good luck. I must admit that I prefer
black-eyed peas and cornbread over grapes, but I had a really great time.
I returned to “la puntilla,” the swimming hole quite a few
times this month. We had a lot of extended family members visiting. My host
cousin came home for summer break from studying at a university in Lima.
Another host aunt and her 3-year-old son stayed with Tia (Aunt) Rosa also. The whole
family went to la puntilla a couple of times to picnic and hang out. Also, I
went fishing for the first time at la puntilla and some of the surrounding
fishing holes on the river. My cousins don’t use poles, they use nets. Although
I only got to throw it once, I was the collector the fishes. There is some
technique and skill involved, but it is so different than any fishing that I’ve
ever experienced. I think I will try to purchase my own net next summer. They
keep ALL the fish that they catch. The first one that my cousin caught, I
laughed out loud when he told me to put it in the bag, but he was serious. It
was what most of us would consider bait, especially in Texas. We caught one
decent-sized tilapia. Afterwards, I sat on the shore and helped clean them with
my pocket knife. They don’t skin or gut them here, just scrape the scales off
and throw ‘em in the frying pan. (Sorry I don’t have any pics of these
excursions. I lent my camera to my cousin to take some pics of all of us
swimming and she promptly went to pushing buttons, and since she, of course,
cannot read English, erased every photo that I had of anything that occurred to
me in January and the last part of December.)
After nearly a month of boredom, I started up some English classes
for the wee little ones during their summer break. (10-14 year-olds. They are
“wee” because all in all the Peruvian people are small. I once mistook a
15-year-old for a 10- or 11-year-old. High school kids look like our elementary
school kids.) Youth Volunteers are strongly encouraged to do some kind of
something during the summer break. Honestly, I think this is mainly to combat
Volunteer insanity more than anything else.
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Alphabet caterpiller |
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This was the first day. The number of kiddos swelled to over 40 the next day. |
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Nonformal education at its best |
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Learning the parts of the body in English |
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The lesson on clothes |
This was my first business
encounter with the municipality, i.e., I begged for some money. At this point,
I am already highly familiar with the snail’s pace of work around here, but
this was my first go. Good news, though – I got the money…three months later.
Because of this, I was unable to do many of the cool activities that I had
planned for the kiddos, but they seemed to enjoy themselves. The best part was
that my host sister, Yessica, helped me out most days. I started out with 18
kids, but by the second week, we had 42. The numbers evened out in February. A
rumor went around town that the classes ended in January, so attendance
plummeted that first week. Small towns! What do ya do?
I only did two days a week because I had plans to start a
Youth Leadership Group. This was one of the three things that the authorities
asked for help with before I moved to town. This was specifically listed in my
welcome packet. I plastered the town with flyers, made announcements on the “emisor,”
(a big bull horn on a pole that announces important messages to the town and
plays the national anthem at 7a.m. every morning J) and personally
invited about 7 youths that I really wanted to attend. In a small town and with
the support of the high school staff (yes, the director and secretaries and PTA
are at the school for most of the summer break), I figured that this would be
sufficient advertising. I made “American” appetizers (PBnJ, ham and cheese
pinwheels, tuna fish sandwiches, and my now famous chocolates) for my first
meeting and some really cool team-building exercises ready to go. I waited for
an hour…for no one to show. I had heard of this happening to practically every
volunteer, but when it happens to you, you just aren’t prepared like you think
you are. I started questioning…well, lots of things. Do these people truly like
me? I mean, not even my host sister or neighbors came! Why did I have 7 people
look me in the eye and say, “Yes, I’ll be there."? What did I do wrong?
Why am I here? I had a heck of a lot of appetizers to share with the family.
When I went to the PTA to get their support, they told me that there was no way
that the kids in the community are going to participate in something like that
during their summer vacation. They told me that all the kids are “lazy” during
the summer. I retorted with, “Well, I would think that watching tv all day and
all night would be a little boring. Plus, I see the kids swimming in the canal
and in the river every day. I think that starting now would give the kids a
good opportunity to do activities at least every week because when school starts
back up, they will need the time to study, and we can probably only meet once or
twice a month.” This logic didn’t sway a single person. So, they promised to
support me in “anything I wanted to do” when school started back up, and if I
needed something to do during the break why didn’t I teach a dance class?
Because I’m not a dance instructor. Ok, then sports. No, I’m not a coach. So,
basically I entered a meeting to beg for support for a community youth
leadership group, and I walked away teaching a Zumba/aerobics class for
middle-aged mamas. Anything for the sake of integration.
Oh! And I forgot to mention that this happened a little over
a week that I tried to renegotiate my eating arrangements with my host family
that went over like a lead brick. Probably 90% of Volunteers renegotiate, but
my family either didn’t understand what was told to them or were misinformed. I
tried to prepare my own meals because I explained that I have high cholesterol
and I had gained probably about 15 pounds in six months and all the
carbohydrates in the Peruvian diet (Seriously, they mix rice with spaghetti
here and call it good.) were very bad for my health. I was willing to still eat
lunch with the family, but I wanted a healthy breakfast and dinner. My family
agreed, but they were only going to give my S/.50 per month to eat 60 meals. Nope!
That’s pretty much impossible. I guess I’ll just have a heart attack, get sent
home, and you can have a big fat S/.0 a month! Now, at the time, the family
thing, the food thing, compiled with the youth leadership group thing, my high
school principal telling me that it was my fault that nobody showed up, and the
realization that I had 21 months left to go, was almost too much. There were
many tears shed and much McDonald’s put on mommy’s credit card, but I
persevered! Honestly, this was my lowest point so far. For this reason, I
couldn’t write blogs for a while. “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say
anything at all’ type of thing. Today, things are better. The awkwardness
remained with the family for almost two months (From my experience, Peruvians
don’t really talk things out; it’s either stuffed down deep or screamed out.)
until I couldn’t stand it anymore. My host mom makes me salads with practically
every meal and I am much more honest about what I do and don’t like. I don’t
eat rice very often, and I eat very little meat (cuz it’s all fried). Also, I
started buying my own cereal and box milk (there’s no fresh milk here) for
breakfast for some days and every now and then, I cook my own dinner, so they
dropped my rent S/.50 a month, but I get much healthier meals that they
prepare, so everyone is happy.
So, this exercise class thingy. I pretty much smelled
failure from the start. Peruvians are not known for their health habits, (For
example, my 18-year-old cousin invited me to go “running’ with her when I first
arrived at site. I am NOT a morning person, but I needed the exercise and as
many friends as I could get, so I agreed to go “running” at 5a.m. We went
walking. I tried to explain to her that it is recommended to elevate your heart
rate, but she didn’t really understand my broken Spanish, and I just took off
jogging, meeting her on the flip side of the highway 15 minutes later where she
rejoined me for about 3 minutes before she ate my dust again.) and I had been
seriously trying to lose weight since about mid-December. I explained to the
PTA that I could do the videos that I had been doing in my house, but that was pretty
much all I knew about teaching an exercise class. “We want to dance!” they tell
me. Ok, but I don’t know any dances, but I can find some on the Internet and we
can learn them together. So, since this was labeled an “exercise class,” I
decided to start with stretches as performed by Sean T. from the Insanity videos, dance a few peppy
numbers with the ladies, then do the cardio exercises from the “Fit Test” from
the Insanity series. The Fit Test is
about ten different cardio exercises that you do for exactly one minute as hard
as you can, but at your own pace. I could not have stressed “at your own pace”
harder. It is important that you are able to breathe. I even brought a huge jug
of water, glasses, and I made spreadsheets for the ladies to count the number
of reps they were able to accomplish, so they could track their progress
throughout the next two months. As you can imagine, (and honestly, I knew
better, but I was just a little bitter that I could get support for a mom’s exercise class, but could not get support for a youth
leadership group, the #2 reason that I was invited into this community,
so let’s just say that my heart was really not into this whole thing.) things
were going semi-well with the dancing. Some did not like the songs that I had
found on youtube, and all of them couldn’t imagine why I didn’t use the song Festejo (Remember how I said that EVERY
class in the high school did their choreography to the same song back in
October for the school’s anniversary celebration? Yeah, that song.), but there were still smiles on faces. When I
busted out with the Fit Test, the looks on their faces were priceless. You want
us to do whhhhaaat?!?! “But D.D., those people on the video are skinny!”
Uh-huh. “But, D.D., I thought this class was for mamas.” Yup. And my personal
favorite - “But, D.D., I’m sweating!” At this point, I stopped and tried to
explain that I was asked to teach an exercise class and that I agreed to play my
videos for everyone. I added the three Zumba dances out of the goodness of my
heart and to please the ladies because I have no interest in doing the dances, I
want to lose weight, so I want to do exercises that will contribute to weight
loss. Then I explained that there is probably a cultural difference in the
definition of exercise, but to me, exercise is not the most fun thing to do,
but we do it for the physical benefits, like a healthy heart, weight loss, to
combat diabetes, and to live longer. And, yes, when done correctly, exercise
causes one to sweat! If there are any ladies that do not want to do the
aerobics part or the dancing part, that was absolutely OK, but this is what the
classes are going to be like. I did my absolute best to say this in an
assertive (not aggressive) tone, but in my head, I was doing something (yet
again) that I really didn’t want to do without any sort of tactical or tangible
help, amidst of cacophany of complaints were plentiful. There were 12 women in my first
exercise class. The following class, I expected to have a whoppin’ 0, but to my
surprise, I had 19! Over the 2 ½ month period that I continued the classes,
there were many that came and went, but I had four ladies that really stuck
with me, and we talked about meal plans and how they could do the exercises in
their houses since they now had the knowledge, and all four reported weight
loss and two talked about better sleep. They even want to perform one of our
dances (Festejo, of course) during
the next school anniversary. LOL! Two of the ladies are some of my closest
friends here now, so……totally worth it despite my crappy attitude in the
beginning.
Also, I got some feedback on my huge community diagnostic
that I turned in in December. My boss of the Youth Development Program gave me
a textbook compliment sandwich. She said that it was so nice to read a
diagnostic from an older, highly educated volunteer with obvious work
experience……buuuuut I was too scholarly. Here’s a few recommendations, but very
in-depth and interesting to read. Now, I have been accustomed to an APA writing
style, and by “accustomed,” I mean I did about 1,672 rewrites during my two
years of Master’s training, so being “too scholarly” was more of a compliment
to me than a negative criticism. In reality she gave me a compliment compliment
sandwich with a thick slice of compliment in the middle and extra compliment
dippin’ sauce. When you’ve been trained to write like you’re writing for
publication in scholarly journals (Thanks, again, Psych Profs of MSU!), it’s a
challenge to dumb yourself down, for lack of a better term. She was absolutely
right, by the way. I forgot my audience when writing, and the people and
authorities of La Cria, Patapo, Lambayeque, Peru are not aching to know about
the statistical methods employed or the limitations of the diagnostic.
So, that was pretty much my January. I hit my lowest point
in the now 111/2 months that I have been here. I had to engage some of those darn
psych techniques that I learned on myself, but all in all, I’m doing above
average now. I know, I know, that still isn’t super reassuring, but I doubt
that I will ever reach that natural high honeymoon period naiveté that I had my
first couple of weeks in country. It’s possible, but it will be fleeting, and
that’s just reality. Peace Corps has mapped out the science of Volunteers’
bipolarism, and I can expect another round of the blues in August, when I have
been here for 15 months, but still lack another 12. By then, my dearest mommy
will have been here and brought me Reese’s peanut butter cups and ranch
dressing to help me cope. Luv u, Mom!